The Temptation of Spending

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
makes life a wonderful journey. 

            I may be over-generalising, but truth be told, everyone loves money. Children need money to get what they want, and adults think that money is pleasure, power and pride without realising that at the other end of the spectrum, there are other three Ps - pain, pressure and problems. The human mind can easily be controlled by the temptation of spending and satisfying cravings and insatiable yearnings.

            It is a sorry situation in our country when last week's New Sunday Times unleashed the reality of young people suffering from bankruptcy with the number of those declared bankrupt increasing each year. 

            Bankruptcy is the result of people obsessed with leading a lavish lifestyle. Instead of being aware of the importance of saving for old age, they believe they should live while they are young. That means spending time, energy and money on both the necessary and unnecessary. After all, for some people, “You Only Live Once”.

            With many youngsters being crazy about automobiles, it is not surprising that vehicle purchase is the main reason of bankruptcy. The desire to own a car they cannot afford pushes them to make loans that make them happy for a while, but will haunt them forever. Such people fail to foresee the music they will face.

            Many young people are also easily convinced by the sweet words of promoters and businessmen. Some may be able to resist the seduction, but the young, naïve and immature may be trapped by manipulative strategies used by people whose main objective is to make a profit.

            In this modern era, it is worrying what Generation Y perceives and defines as an ideal life. Some think that their lives will not be complete until they receive attention that comes from belongings. They would rather make their dreams of living a life of glamour and glitz come true than to think about their future that cracks little by little as they indulge themselves. This will not only affect the lives of the spenders but also the ones under their care.

            It is important for the young to manage their finances wisely. They need to think rationally without being easily influenced by others. Even when many choose the road that leads to luxurious lives, they should consider the one less travelled.

            Sometimes, it is better to “leave it” than to “take it”.

Courtesy of New Sunday Times

26 April 2015

Treat the Disabled with Respect and Compassion

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
makes life  wonderful journey. 

            The article “Equality with a difference” (The New Sunday Times, April 5) unveiled the truth about the treatment and judgment by some members of society towards those with disabilities. Yes, reality bites, but it is unjustified and even uncivilised to rob someone of the right to live a discrimination-free life. 

            It is strange how some people think that humans are not perfect and that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, humility and humanity are not evident in their actions. 

When feelings of sympathy and empathy are absent, it will, consciously or subconsciously, give a chance for negative attributes and attitudes to fill in the space. The repercussions, unfortunately, are undesirable, unfavourable and unthinkable.

            Sometimes we focus too much on the importance of equality between people of different races, religions and hierarchies, forgetting those who may be lacking physically but are special in the eyes of God. We need to realise that no matter how rich, educated, sophisticated, successful and healthy we think we are, we have flaws. To declare ourselves as good people, even when we treat others nonchalantly and disrespectfully, is ridiculous.

            As a nation that is looking forward to 2020, we have been making amendments and improvements to strengthen our economy, politics, education, health and security. Yet, we seem to put little effort into “upgrading” good manners. I believe a developed nation should comprise caring, loving and responsible citizens with positive mindsets, perceptions and thoughts.

            We need to stop perceiving the disabled as being less important, for they will always be part of us, no matter what. 

            A true Malaysian is considerate and compassionate. So, let's treat our disabled brothers and sisters respectfully, as, at the end of the day, we are all humans with flaws – be they hidden or obvious. Just like others, the disabled community shares the same hopes and dreams – to be seen, heard and appreciated.

Courtesy of New Sunday Times

19 April 2015

EXTREMISM (Address Root Causes to Eradicate Scourge)

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
makes life a beautiful journey. 

            It was a smart move by Youth and Sports Minister Khairy Jamaluddin to outline the five factors that drive youths to join extremist groups, as reported in your article “Extremism due to 5 factors” (NST, April 5).

            The factors – absence of a platform to voice opinions, socio-economic issues, desire to change the world, emotional silence and misconception of justice – are the reasons why the number of youths trying to join groups with ridiculous ideologies and teachings, including the Islamic State (IS), keeps increasing. These individuals think that their decision is heroic, daring and noble, but they forget to weigh the pros and cons of their actions. Worse, they believe that they fight in the name of religion, justice and peace.

            The absence of proper channels for youngsters to share their views causes them to resort to quick, easy, risky and inadvisable ways of being heard, no thanks to social media.

In the world where freedom of speech and expression rules the minds of people from all walks of life, especially the young and immature, many may be easily convinced to agree with wrong ideas and interpretations of issues. In the case of extremism, youngsters are recruited to join militants when their minds are manipulated by those obsessed with violence and inhumane acts.

            Some youths are tricked by IS recruiters, who target those with less exposure to the outside world, as well as those having difficulty finding stable jobs, most probably because the applicants are too demanding and selective, or because of low qualification. This socio-economic factor has consequently given opportunities for "predators" to hunt for victims.

            People who live lonely lives are also prone to joining extremist groups. These antisocial individuals are pressured by emptiness and solitariness. Without companions to give them a second opinion, the situation drives them to make drastic, dangerous and destructive decisions affecting not only themselves, but other people, too. 

            The spirit to uphold justice is another factor that inspires youngsters to become "heroes" and "saviours". These volunteers have the wrong understanding of justice and jihad in their bid to die as martyrs. 

            With the five factors outlined, it is hoped that we can work on the next step to eradicate extremism, which has drawn so much innocent blood.  

Courtesy of New Straits Times

16 April 2015

Wildlife Needs Respect, Protection.

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
makes life a wonderful journey.

            Social media has become a technological advancement humans cannot live with or without. While some find it useful to stay connected with family members and acquaintances, others abuse it as a medium for illegal business activities, including trafficking wildlife, as reported recently. 

            This criminal act is only one of many efforts by insensitive individuals to destroy the richness and uniqueness of our ecosystem and the beauty of the world. Not only have they failed to value and appreciate wildlife but they have also denied these animals of their natural habitat. These culprits have, with or without them realising it, broken the simple rule of humanity; if you cannot love them, at least do not hurt them.

            It is scary how greed and materialism can cause humans to lose self-control, which leads to self-destruction, and keeps them from seeing the undesirable repercussions of their actions that they will face, sooner or later. These criminals, who believe in the cliché that "money is everything", may only aim to become rich using not-so-smart tricks and strategies, which later become regrettable mistakes. Sacrificing their morality and ethics, they insult human intelligence by manipulating and taking advantage of innocent creatures they are supposed to preserve and protect.

            We have lost many precious lush greenery and cannot afford to lose more, as it would be almost impossible and unimaginable to live without animals and plants, considering our coexistence on this Earth.  

            Mahatma Ghandi said: “The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated”.

            As sensible and civilised citizens, we need to protect and conserve our flora and fauna, and help save endangered species by launching a campaign or reporting on any attempts at wildlife smuggling. We need to respect animal rights, just like human rights. 

Courtesy of New Straits Times,

8 April 2015

ENGLISH PROFICIENCY (Consider Suggestions by Famous Education Pioneers)

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
makes life a wonderful journey.

            The great concern shown by the National Institute of Public Administration Institute over our students' poor level of English proficiency, “Poor English level a poser” (NST Letters, March 27), should make schools, parents and especially English language teachers reflect on their efforts in helping children master the language, both for academic purposes and for them to be prepared for the working world.

            English teachers are still facing problems activating and developing language skills in learners. Some students are motivated to learn the language, but their passion and perseverance are seasonal and only for short-term goals – achieving excellent grades to make everyone proud, or to meet requirements for university admission. Others perceive English as a difficult, unimportant and uninteresting subject to learn, and to love.

            Teachers need to integrate old and new pedagogies to engage students, regardless of the level of proficiency. The use of information and communication technologies as well as collaborative teaching are recent strategies that may be effective, but let us also consider suggestions by renowned pioneers in education including John Dewey, Friedrich Froebel, Johann Pestalozzi, Maria Montessori and Jean Piaget, who proposed various teaching methods to help teachers cope with learners with different personalities and learning styles.

            Froebel agreed that the inclusion of songs, stories, games and gifts are suitable for children experiencing early childhood and elementary education, and with necessary and creative amendments in lesson plans, these teaching ideas are likely to attract teenage learners to learn English too. Students can learn about pronunciation and enunciation through songs; stories help learners develop their curiosity and become critical thinkers; language games make it possible for them to learn and play at the same time while extrinsic rewards like gifts serve as icing on the cake.

             Piaget thought that it was important for learners to interact with the environment and he also encouraged teachers to provide concrete materials that children can touch, manipulate and use during lessons. This direct and informal style of teaching is suitable for weak learners who have problems understanding grammar, memorising vocabulary and appreciating literature.

            Besides, learners should be allowed to express their thoughts during sharing sessions, as suggested by Dewey, as this will arouse their interest and increase attention span. 

            Since parents are mutually accountable in helping schoolchildren become proficient in English, they should play their roles by conducting a spontaneous learning, as proposed by Montessori. In this homely yet conducive-for-learning environment, children will learn using didactic materials while parents act as facilitators.

            Children are gifted with multiple intelligences, and it is our responsibility to discover and develop their individual learning styles. Some may be able to sit back and listen, but others may need to move to learn.

Courtesy of New Straits Times

6 April 2015

Cherishing the Sweet Moments of Childhood

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
makes life a wonderful journey. 

            Some believe that what goes around comes around. This mantra makes them behave, think twice before making decisions, have an inclination to help others in need and to reflect on their mistakes. Others prefer to live carefree lives while believing that "they are who they are" and a change in attitude – be it good or bad – means hypocrisy. Such individuals are likely to create problems in relationships, making it almost impossible for camaraderie to last long because of the lack of tolerance, empathy and concern. In other words, they are selfish, egoistic, unwise, immature and insensitive.

            Not only will they make their friends, colleagues, neighbours, clients and bosses unhappy with their unfavourable personality, chances are, they will also cause their parents misery. These children fail to appreciate and value the unconditional love of their parents, resulting in them becoming ungrateful and disrespectful. 

            Materialism may be a leading factor to this phenomenon. When money controls the lives of people desperate for wealth, power and influence, every decision will be made for personal gain and satisfaction. These children think that their determination, motivation and continuous efforts are sole contributions to their success, forgetting the bittersweet days they had with their parents who helped make their dreams come true. Little did these children know that the support, sacrifice, prayers and blessings of their parents, which they find trivial, have made them believe in themselves again even after the unbearable tests and challenges they had to deal with along the way.

            It is frightening that our mindset and perception can make us practise an unhealthy lifestyle. Some people prioritise their wants over their needs, while being obsessed with temporary satisfaction in life. They think that they will lead happier lives if they stop caring for their parents, who, in the eyes, heart and mind of these unthankful children, are burdens.

            Children who think that they do not need parents are those who fail to feel the beauty of human connection and the serenity it brings to a torn heart.  

            If only these children were able to recollect their cherished moments with their parents when they were little, I believe they would not resort to making this unthinkable decision of neglecting the ones who loved them the most.

            As John Steinbeck highlighted in his 1952 novel East of Eden, human lives were governed by timshel - a Hebrew term that means the power of choosing between good and evil, and right and wrong. We all have the ability to decide, whether to indulge in the forbidden fruit with consequences, or resist the temptation while believing that the grass is actually greener on the other side, where a happy and heavenly life awaits us.

Courtesy of New Sunday Times

5 April 2015

FARE HIKES

The writer believes that a beautiful camaraderie
 makes life a wonderful journey.

            The eagerness of transport operators to implement the new fares has put many commuters under pressure as they need to face new rates that they believe are too high. It is important for us to note that when it comes to making decisions that will affect the whole country, it is best if we weigh their pros and cons and ensure that every aspect is taken into consideration. Above all, the decision must be justified, relevant, unbiased, wise and mature.

            The aphorism “Customers are always right” may not work that well in this situation when transport operators argue that they have the right to adjust ticket prices. Thus, I suggest we go back to being true Malaysians who are considerate, caring, rational and optimistic. Some may not realise it, but these are the attitudes and attributes that have been keeping us together as a multicultural and multiracial family despite the trials and tribulations that test us along the way.

            Considering the rising cost of living and new changes in our economic planning, many are still trying to adapt and re-plan their finances, especially those with families to support as well as the ones struggling to eke out a living. The price hike may add to their burden, and more people will suffer in silence. As we aim to become a developed country in the near future, we need to ensure all members of society are free from oppression, inequality and discrimination.

            The heated argument of the fare hike may put us in a “lose-lose situation”, which makes everyone’s life harder and complicated. Taxi and bus drivers may, ironically, not be able to enjoy the profits despite the price hike as there may be a drop in the number of customers, as they protest to show their objection. Some customers may resort to driving their personal vehicles to work, but will have to suffer traffic jams in the morning that leads to stress, which is unhealthy to their well-being and work performance. Worse, some customers may gradually stop taking public transportation because of insufficient money, leaving them in a dilemma.     

            Nevertheless, if it is still necessary for transport operators to revise their fares, a slight increase should not be a problem to regular customers of public transportation. Consumers, at least, can take their time adapting to the new prices rather than being flabbergasted with the drastic increase.

            There is a solution for every situation. However, this issue will not be settled if we fail to find effective ways to solve it. Instead of being at loggerheads, we need to put our heads together and reach a consensus that can mutually benefit both parties. 

Courtesy of New Sunday Times

29 March 2015